Anonymous asked: How do you fall back in love with life?

malisoun-deactivated20200727:

1. clean your room.  clean space, uncluttered space, space that doesn’t have miasma clinging to it can work wonders.  clean the dishes.  sweep.  take out the trash.  peel the clothes off the floor and wash them, and then actually fold/hang them.  take a long shower.  scrub behind your knees.  brush your teeth.  (this can be utterly exhausting, but try to get it done in a day, if you can.  the end result is worth it.)
   
2. pull out your notebook.  it doesn’t need to be a new notebook, but preferably one that you don’t usually write in, or that you haven’t touched in a while.  fuck moleskins.  the yellow legal pad will work fine.  sit in your room, or in the park, or in the library, and write a list.  count clouds.  describe all the colors that you see, and note patterns that arise.  sketch the cracks in the walls.  note the shape light makes when it enters a space.  talk about what the air tastes like, smells like.  what sounds are there?  even the white nose, break that down: air planes, fans, cicadas, anything.  remind yourself that you are sitting in the middle of a space brimming with detail.  remind yourself that you are not in nothingness and emptiness.  your world is fathomless.  it has potential.
   
3. drink cold water and try to eat something that isn’t processed.  it does not need to be fancy.  buy yourself an apple with the change between your couch cushions.  eat it outside.  if you’re someone who walks, walk somewhere afterwards, just to stretch your legs.  take your fucking meds.  remember that its a good thing that you are inside your body.  your body is a fantastic and endlessly intricate machine, and even though society has smacked a bunch of poisonous ideas on it, that doesn’t change its inherent worth and splendor.  take care of it.
   
4. read a novel.  underline your favorite lines, and write phrases that twist your heart inside your chest on the back of your hand with an ink pen.  read a novel like it’s poetry.  read poetry, something decadent but unpretentious.  watch a movie you haven’t seen before.  if there are free art galleries near you, walk through one.  take your time.  let yourself bask.  if there are patterns in what makes your soul ache, write those patterns down – marbles arches or soot crumbling bricks or dandelions or descriptions of dresses or whatever it is, write them down.
   
5. your chosen family is important.  remember, they picked you as much as you picked them.  the love has no obligation.  it is given freely and it is given from a place of compassion.  you are not a burden.  if you need to breathe, take a minute by yourself and just exist, but remember to go back to your people.  when they need you, listen and be gracious.  always be gracious.  the universe sometimes remembers things like that.
   
6. listen to new music.  link jump on youtube or related artist jump on spotify or ask the chap beside you in the cafe what their favorite band is, and listen to that.  listen to something that you don’t usually listen to.  we tend to tie up a lot of memory with music.  we are falling in love again.  the soundtrack needs to be specific to that.  
7. allow yourself to indulge in romantics.  press flowers in old books.  play movies with subtitles and mouth the words.  dance in your room.  wear something that makes you feel good, even if you wouldn’t wear it in public.  write your chosen family letters, even if you hand deliver them.  write poetry, even awful poetry.  revel in its awfulness.  eat dark chocolate and when your chosen family want to go out, try to go out with them sometimes, even if its just to the market.  

tmblrina:

i love being bisexual and being friends with other bisexuals we are all so cool

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fantasticfables:

Move your writing from Wattpad to Ao3 NOW

I don’t know if this will reach anyone who writes on wattpad but if it does: wattpad legally owns everything you’ve put on their site. This “partnership” with paramount means that they could take the plot off your original story, make a movie out of it, and take all the profit themselves because you are not legally entitled to a share, as per the terms of service.

But, navigating a new website can be scary or unpleasant. So I figured - as someone who migrated from wattpad to ao3 myself a couple years ago - here are a few tips:

• When you sign up, you need to have an ‘invite’, this will be sent to you by the site in three days max.
• Unlike Wattpad that I remember had limited tags - both in number and in scope - ao3 tags are numerous and cover a lot of ground. You can tag for everything that is present in the fic or only for things you consider important. This is entirely up to you.
• Tags are three categories, usually: archive warnings, relationship tags, additional tags. Additional tags is where you would put specifics of the work.
• Fandom tags, also. Though they’re not really called tags, just the fandom of the work. Original Work is a category, and you can freely use it.
• Sometimes readers might ask you to tag with something specific - a potential trigger that you may have missed. You are not required to comply - you are mostly left to your own devices on ao3 - but most people do. It makes everything better for everyone involved.
• Ao3 works don’t really have 'covers’ as Wattpad works do - the medium is completely text based. people find your works based on pairing and additional tags, and judge it based on title and summary. You can still make covers for your work, but you will have to put it inside the work and people will only see it if they’ve already clicked on it.
• Relationship tags fall into two categories: Character/Character for a romantic relationship and Character & Character for a platonic relationship.
• There are six archive warning categories; 1- No archive warnings apply 2- rape/non-consensual 3- major character death 4- underage 5-graphic depictions of violence 5- creator chose not to apply any archive warnings.
• A little bit of an afterthought;
• - major character death is mostly considered anyone from the main pairing(s), but if a side character makes enough appearances to be loved by the audience, you might want to choose this anyway.
• - choosing not to apply archive warnings is an ambiguous situation. you might do this to not spoil anything in the work - not advised, that’s not how people choose to read things on ao3. your readers will feel betrayed - or if you feel an archive warning is Too Much but whatever happens is a little too close to home with one of them - in this case, you’re advised to explain further in additional tags.
• The posting page is fairly simple, similar to wattpad in a lot of aspects. No 'header’, though. Fully text-based in posting. But you can have pictures in the body of the work itself which is how meme fics came to be - fics entirely told through meme pictures.
• oh, ao3 has two interesting functions that wattpad doesn’t have at all:
• First; you can post anonymously. you do this by making a “Collection”, setting it to anonymous, and putting your published work in that collection. This is how Anonymus and gift fests are usually kept secret! Be mindful that the Anonymus state can be applied to any collection by the owner at any time, so don’t let your work be added to random collections by people you do not trust.
• Second; orphaning a work. If you thought a story that you wrote was fun and cool but childish, so you still want people to read it but without it being attributed to you - orphaning the work will put it in the archive’s servers as 'writer-less’. Once you orphan a work you have no more control over it - you can’t delete or edit it.
• Per Line Commenting was one of the fun features of wattpad; ao3 does not have that. People who really like your stuff will write lengthy comments, put paragraphs at a time in quotation marks, and then tell you how they felt about it. This is neither better or worse, just different. speaking from experience, it’s less funny, but more genuine and heartfelt.
• NO ALGORITHM. you will discover so, so many hidden gems and your story will be found by so, so many people. No more of popular works getting all of the spotlight.
• oh and no “Awards” either but from what I remember those always sucked so this isn’t important. You get found by the tags or by word of mouth and other people’s bookmarks and tags.
• Oh, and you don’t just 'favorite’ fics, you can 'bookmark’ them which means “I liked this!” And you can 'rec’ them which means “I think you should read this!”. Bookmarks and recs can be public or private.
• How could I forget! NO ADS. ao3 is a non-profit, so nobody who works on it makes a single cent off the incredible amount of traffic the site gets. You will not see any ads in the interface of the site or in any of your stories.
• And finally, the ao3’s most important feature: the site isn’t going to fucking steal your story!!! You completely and legally own the work you put on ao3, and if it does get stolen they would actually help you get it back.

It’s 2 a.m and this is all I can think of. Don’t let paramount steal your hard work on your writing, they’re assholes who do not deserve more money than they have.

If you are reading this and have a question about any part of it, do feel free to ask me or anyone else who has their ao3 link in their bio, they’d know the ropes. You can also read the full archive faq for more in-depth explanations of everything here.

Take your work off wattpad before it’s too late, y'all.

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rudescience:

altruistech:

Don’t. Bring. Your. Phone. To. Protests.

Your phone thinks it’s connecting to a local tower, but it’s an FBI microcell.

Simple as that.

Bring a burner, and today 20 bucks gets you a decent burner phone with a decent camera.

Let me hijack this post because I worked with this kind of stuff and it is very important. Today your phone sends out 3 identifiable signals, virtually everywhere around you. 

The first is a GSM signal, that’s what you use to make calls and send actual sms text and connect to data. This has obviously its own identifiers which your phone provider uses to distinguish you, and depending on the plan you have, it’s tied to your name and location close to the cell tower you’re connected to and this info can be easily accessed by a warrant. In some cases no warrant is needed. 

Your ESSID and other information is sent through your phones onboard wifi looking for places to connect to. This can super easily be stored, and while it is not entirely connected to a name, unless your phone has a host address like “Tom’s Iphone10” or “Brittany’s Samsung S20″, your (whole) name is not directly tied to it. But your phones identity and mac address are.  

The third thing is bluetooth, which does not have the long range that wifi does but that actually makes it more dangerous, since it can pinpoint you to a certain location where the data was captured. Especially during a protest. This way you can’t talk yourself out of ever being there. This technology also gives out identifiers, like your phones name and Bluetooth mac address. 

Apart from this info, there are ways to pull easily provided information directly from your phone. Cause when your phone connects to publicly available networks it also starts looking for the services it is connected to, sending cookies to websites like facebook and twitter which can be traced back to you.

This sort of information capture out in the open is called a Dragnet, and is employed by Police and other forces for data gathering out in the public. And it is quite legal, given that you’re providing this information out in the open, knowingly or unknowingly, just like video surveillance and facial identification capture. 

Now Dragnets are super useful because they capture this information, and in the case of crimes being committed, people can be traced back that didn’t get caught on camera.

On a non security measure aspect they can be used in people counting, helping businesses plan and execute their services better, lowering cost and improving customer experiences. 

Some are even using types of dragnet technology to count people in a library or gym and send the data in real time to your phone to tell you how crowded a place is. Lot’s of good things. 

The thing is that this tech is real and it is out there already, I have seen this tech being employed, I have offered people to build this tech for them for good uses only and I have seen these devices out in the wild.

But obviously this technology has been, and is continuing to be misused by law enforcement to discriminate, falsely accuse and detain people just because they happen to cross through a dragnets at the time of an alleged happening or situation. There is absolutely no legislation covering this specific situation and deployment or use of this kind of tech. 

Be safe, and don’t bring your phone to a protest. Also keep your Wi-Fi and Bluetooth off in public when you’re not using it. There are apps available that turn them off for you. 

just don’t take pictures of people doing/preparing to do direct action at all, please.

https://thisisbobbylondon.com/2017/09/12/your-camera-is-a-snitch/

Your Camera is A Snitch

While it is key to popularize masking up, there must also be a culture created against filming during protest.

thisisbobbylondon.com

The 3 letters weasel around their own laws, we live in a surveillance state. In tech this vid is ancient but has some relevant ideas and strategy

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mikesmoustache:

biglawbear:

dispatchesfromtheclasswar:

Good for this person. This is exactly what you do. Screw the job.

I had a job that made me work an all nighter, 30 hours straight, over Thanksgiving. I resigned that Monday and it was one of the most satisfying decisions I’ve ever made.

Part 3:

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nbcladiesdaily:

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY!

FRIENDS (1994-2004)

leoriowithaknife:

don’t make me tap the sign…

dantes-infernal-chili:

dragonfox-in-a-teacup:

weasowl:

dopeluminarydreamer:

the-future-now:

That’s Louis Rossman, a repair technician and YouTuber, who went viral recently for railing against Apple. Apple purposely charges a lot for repairs and you either have to pay up or buy a new device. That’s because Apple withholds necessary tools and information from outside repair shops. And to think, we were just so close to change.

Follow @the-future-now

Reblog if you:

• Have an iPhone and are in need of repairs
  
• Have a friend with that problem
• Hate Apple and are more than happy to spite them in some way

No one will know which is it

This guy inspired me to repair my own macbook. First of all, you should know that I am not… like, I have to look up HOW to look up what my computer specifications are. Tech, that ware either soft or hard, is not a subject in which I experience comfort or competence.

But my puppy peed on my keyboard, and I asked the apple store, or the fucking mac cafe, or the godsdamn Computer House Chill Zone or whatever cute ass name they have for their bullshit store, and they said it would be TWELVE HUNDRED DOLLARS TO REPLACE MY KEYBOARD. I’m not even exaggerating.

So I asked the internet, well how hard IS it to repair? And I saw this guy’s video, and while I am no techie, I AM fueled by spite, so I was all “oh, they do that shit on purpose specifically so they can charge me $1200 bucks or make me buy a new computer hunh? FUCK THEM” and I bought all the tools I needed for about $25 and I bought all the parts I needed for about another $25 and I watched a few tutorial videos, and I replaced my own keyboard.

So, once you are doing the actual deed, it becomes pretty obvious that they are finding creative ways to make this much harder than it has to be on purpose. On thing that stood out to me is, instead of all the tiny screws being the same size, there are about two dozen very slightly different sizes. They could easily be all the same size, or like, two sizes at most, but no.

These mother fuckers will take a panel that screws into place and they’ll use a different size screw for each corner. They are so close that you almost cannot tell them apart visually, but they each will only screw into the matching corner. Like, it’s a pretty clear “fuck you” to anyone trying to do repairs.

anyway, this guy is also fueled by spite, and doing holy work, and I have mad respect

This is awesome. Man is doing good ass deeds 24/7 because he’s giving people control.

How dare you not leave a link to his channel, this guy is the savior of the modern world.

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fantasticfables:

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saltybitchonmain:

Woop there it is

I like this post because it’s homophobic lol

You can’t make this shit up. Love being on tumblr where anybody making a point can watch it be proven right IMMEDIATELY

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n09m19changsblog:

Universal Help Me signal. Please Boost!!

🙏🏼✝️❤️

I will always share this. Every one needs to know this signal. You could save a life.

Reblog

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Please keep this going.

Share and share again.

So everyone knows

BOOST.

Boosting. Knowledge is power

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Sailor Moon S + Transformations

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antidrumpfs:

Cartoon by Steve Sack

There’s a pretty sobering PSA playing on TV in my state.

Had a family member waiting in the ER with a friend of theirs overhear a man calling around and telling his family goodbye

He was in the early stages of a heart attack (chest pain and the like) and the triage nurse, as kindly and gently as she could, had already said they probably wouldn’t be able to get him back in time.

A man was in the process of dying, right next to life saving equipment and professionals, and too many beds/people were dealing with COVID patients (also in the process of dying) to treat him. My family member had to leave before she found out if he made it or not but….how horrid….to be alone and making goodbye phone calls when it should be easy to keep you alive.

There was a news report about the same hospital trying desperately to keep a different man alive in the waiting room and being unable to. Having to wheel his dead body to the morgue after hours of waiting for a bed and equipment that never freed up.

Please go get your vaccine if you’re able, please.

“oh but I could still get covid so what’s the point???” THIS! This is the point! You will 99.99% stay out of the hospital and let people like these two men not have to make goodbye calls to their families!!

😷

THIS! THIS IS THE POINT!

😷

My hospital is in chaos because of unvaxxed fucks, not to mention the staffing crisis. They frequently have to put beds in hallways because all the rooms are full, so imagine you’re bleeding out from a car crash and they have to dump your ass in the hallway because there’s no where else to put you. Oh and someone’s probably coughing on you, which is awesome.

Get your goddamn vaccines

If you don’t believe in science, why do you go to an emergency room???  Go see a vet and get a dose of Ivermectin and die in your own fracking vomit and feces!!

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rhythmic-idealist:

no-passaran:

I haven’t seen anyone talk about it on Tumblr yet but in Mexico they’re doing a huge step forward against conversion therapy for asexual people

5 Mexican ace people are suing Mexico’s health system for cataloguing asexuality as a psychiatric illness and for having forced them into conversion therapy which had the objective of turning ace people into allosexual (meaning non-asexual) people.

Translation:

Tweet by the organization Colectivo PTF Yucatán (Collective for the protection of all families in Yucatán): “📢 From the Colectivo Para la Protección de Todas las Familias en Yucatán, we will accompany 5 asexual people from the state [of Yucatán] in their recurso de amparo [a writ to protect the constitutional rights of a person] against the Mexican Secretary of Health and other authorities for cataloguing asexuality as a psychiatric illness. #NothingToCure 🖤💟💜 [hearts in the colours of the asexuality flag]

Translation:

ASEXUAL PEOPLE SUE THE [MEXICAN] HEALTH SYSTEM FOR THE CONVERSION THERAPY

Five asexual people from Yucatán have presented a writ of amparo against the federal Secretary of Health and other authorities of the National Health System for cataloguing asexuality as a psychiatric illness. They demand the protocols and internal practises be modified, as well as allowing healthcare, specially the psychiatric services, to access the right to healthcare without discrimination.

Asexuality is an orientation characterised for not feeling sexual attraction towards anyone or the lack of interest in sexual relations. It’s calculated that at least 1% of the population is asexual. This will be the first time that a writ of amparo is presented to defend the rights of asexual people in Mexico.

From the Collective for the Protection of All Families in Yucatán we accompany this law suit in which the plaintiff resorted to the Federal Justice after the federal authorities confirmed to them that asexuality is understood as a psychiatric problem under the National Healthcare System’s framework.

According to the Secretary of Health staff, if a person states that they don’t have sexual attraction towards anyone, first of all studies are done on this person to identify if [their asexuality] has a physiological origin. Once this option is ruled out, they [asexual people] are channelled to the psychiatry staff for therapy. This practise is in fact a conversion therapy, given that it seeks to cure people whose orientation is asexual. The healthcare authorities do not contemplate in their protocols the distinction between asexuality and physiological alterations.

The demand was admitted last Friday [July 16th 2021] in the Third District Court in Yucatán, who will resolve the matter.

Transcripción en español (no lo hablo, lo siento):

Un tweet del Colectivo PTF Yucatán 🏳️‍🌈🇲🇽[bandera transgénero], @ColectivoPTFYuc.

📣 Desde el Colectivo por la Protección de Todas las Familias en Yucatán, acompañamos a 5 personas asexuales del estado en la demanda de amparo en contra de la @SSalud_mx y otras autoridades por catalogar la asexualidad como una enfermedad psiquiátrica. #NadaQueCurar 🖤♡💜

Un artículo.

Personas Asexuales Demandan Al Sistema De Salud Por Terapias De Conversión

Cinco personas asexuales de Yucatán presentaron una demanda de amparo en contra de la Secretaria de Salud federal y otras autoridades del Sistema Nacional de Salud por catalogar la asexualidad como una enfermedad psiquiátrica. Exigen se modifiquen los protocolos y servicios psiquiátricos, para ejercer su derecho a acceder a la salud sin discriminación.

La asexualidad es una orientación caracterizada por no sentir attracción sexual hacia ninguna persona o un desinterés por las relaciones sexuales. Se calcula que al menos 1% de la población es asexual. Esta sería la primera vez que se presenta un amparo para defender los derechos de las personas asexuales en México.

Desde el Colectivo por la Protección de Todas las Familias en Yucatán (Colectivo PTFY) acompañamos este litigio en el cual las personas demandantes acudieron a la Justicia Federal luego de que las autoridades federales les confirmaran que la asexualidad era entendida como un problema psiquiátrico en el marco del Sistema Nacional de Salud.

Según el personal de la Secretaría de Salud, si una persona afirma no tener atracción sexual hacia nadie, primero se le realizan estudios para identificar si tiene algún origen fisiológico. Descarto esto, son canalizados al personal de psiquiatría para terapia. Esta práctica es una terapia de conversión de hecho, debido a que busca curar a las personas con orientación asexual. Las autoridades de salud no contemplan en sus protocolos la posibilidad de distinguir entre la asexualidad y alteraciones fisiológicas.

La demanda fue admitida el viernes pasado por el Juzgado Tercero de Distrito en Yucatán, quien resolverá el asunto.

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My image description is pretty bad, anyone should feel free to add a better one instead. Thank you so much, OP, this is huge news.

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star-anise:

star-anise:

So what I’ve learned from the past couple months of being really loud about being a bi woman on Tumblr is: A lot of young/new LGBT+ people on this site do not understand that some of the stuff they’re saying comes across to other LGBT+ people as offensive, aggressive, or threatening. And when they actually find out the history and context, a lot of them go, “Oh my god, I’m so sorry, I never meant to say that.”

Like, “queer is a slur”: I get the impression that people saying this are like… oh, how I might react if I heard someone refer to all gay men as “f*gs”. Like, “Oh wow, that’s a super loaded word with a bunch of negative freight behind it, are you really sure you want to put that word on people who are still very raw and would be alarmed, upset, or offended if they heard you call them it, no matter what you intended?”

So they’re really surprised when self-described queers respond with a LOT of hostility to what feels like a well-intentioned reminder that some people might not like it. 

That’s because there’s a history of “political lesbians”, like Sheila Jeffreys, who believe that no matter their sexual orientation, women should cut off all social contact with men, who are fundamentally evil, and only date the “correct” sex, which is other women. Political lesbians claim that relationships between women, especially ones that don’t contain lust, are fundamentally pure, good, and  unproblematic. They therefore regard most of the LGBT community with deep suspicion, because its members are either way too into sex, into the wrong kind of sex, into sex with men, are men themselves, or somehow challenge the very definitions of sex and gender. 

When “queer theory” arrived in the 1980s and 1990s as an organized attempt by many diverse LGBT+ people in academia to sit down and talk about the social oppressions they face, political lesbians like Jeffreys attacked it harshly, publishing articles like “The Queer Disappearance of Lesbians”, arguing that because queer theory said it was okay to be a man or stop being a man or want to have sex with a man, it was fundamentally evil and destructive. And this attitude has echoed through the years; many LGBT+ people have experience being harshly criticized by radical feminists because being anything but a cis “gold star lesbian” (another phrase that gives me war flashbacks) was considered patriarchal, oppressive, and basically evil.

And when those arguments happened, “queer” was a good umbrella to shelter under, even when people didn’t know the intricacies of academic queer theory; people who identified as “queer” were more likely to be accepting and understanding, and “queer” was often the only label or community bisexual and nonbinary people didn’t get chased out of. If someone didn’t disagree that people got to call themselves queer, but didn’t want to be called queer themselves, they could just say “I don’t like being called queer” and that was that. Being “queer” was to being LGBT as being a “feminist” was to being a woman; it was opt-in.

But this history isn’t evident when these interactions happen. We don’t sit down and say, “Okay, so forty years ago there was this woman named Sheila, and…” Instead we queers go POP! like pufferfish, instantly on the defensive, a red haze descending over our vision, and bellow, “DO NOT TELL ME WHAT WORDS I CANNOT USE,” because we cannot find a way to say, “This word is so vital and precious to me, I wouldn’t be alive in the same way if I lost it.” And then the people who just pointed out that this word has a history, JEEZ, way to overreact, go away very confused and off-put, because they were just trying to say.

But I’ve found that once this is explained, a lot of people go, “Oh wow, okay, I did NOT mean to insinuate that, I didn’t realize that I was also saying something with a lot of painful freight to it.”

And that? That gives me hope for the future.

Similarily: “Dyke/butch/femme are lesbian words, bisexual/pansexual women shouldn’t use them.”

When I speak to them, lesbians who say this seem to be under the impression that bisexuals must have our own history and culture and words that are all perfectly nice, so why can’t we just use those without poaching someone else’s?

And often, they’re really shocked when I tell them: We don’t. We can’t. I’d love to; it’s not possible.

“Lesbian” used to be a word that simply meant a woman who loved other women. And until feminism, very, very few women had the economic freedom to choose to live entirely away from men. Lesbian bars that began in the 1930s didn’t interrogate you about your history at the door; many of the women who went there seeking romantic or sexual relationships with other women were married to men at the time. When The Daughters of Bilitis formed in 1955 to work for the civil and political wellbeing of lesbians, the majority of its members were closeted, married women, and for those women, leaving their husbands and committing to lesbian partners was a risky and arduous process the organization helped them with. Women were admitted whether or not they’d at one point truly loved or desired their husbands or other men–the important thing was that they loved women and wanted to explore that desire.

Lesbian groups turned against bisexual and pansexual women as a class in the 1970s and 80s, when radical feminists began to teach that to escape the Patriarchy’s evil influence, women needed to cut themselves off from men entirely. Having relationships with men was “sleeping with the enemy” and colluding with oppression. Many lesbian radical feminists viewed, and still view, bisexuality as a fundamentally disordered condition that makes bisexuals unstable, abusive, anti-feminist, and untrustworthy.

(This despite the fact that radical feminists and political lesbians are actually a small fraction of lesbians and wlw, and lesbians do tend, overall, to have positive attitudes towards bisexuals.)

That process of expelling bi women from lesbian groups with immense prejudice continues to this day and leaves scars on a lot of bi/pan people. A lot of bisexuals, myself included, have an experience of “double discrimination”; we are made to feel unwelcome or invisible both in straight society, and in LGBT spaces. And part of this is because attempts to build a bisexual/pansexual community identity have met with strong resistance from gays and lesbians, so we have far fewer books, resources, histories, icons, organizations, events, and resources than gays and lesbians do, despite numerically outnumbering them..

So every time I hear that phrase, it’s another painful reminder for me of all the experiences I’ve had being rejected by the lesbian community. But bisexual experiences don’t get talked about or signalboosted much,so a lot of young/new lesbians literally haven’t learned this aspect of LGBT+ history.

And once I’ve explained it, I’ve had a heartening number of lesbians go, “That’s not what I wanted to happen, so I’m going to stop saying that.”

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